Perspective Shift: 3 Common Parenting Habits to Rethink for Stronger Connections
Hey, love, let’s talk about something I see often in my coaching practice—habits that parents fall into when they’re overwhelmed, tired, or just trying to get through the day. Sometimes, these go-to solutions don’t align with the deep connection they want with their kids. And that’s okay! The good news? Small shifts in perspective can create big, positive changes.
Today, I want to explore three common parenting habits that, when adjusted, can lead to more understanding, connection, and calm in your home. Let’s dive in!
1. Ignoring Big Emotions
It’s tempting for parents to brush off their kids’ big emotions, especially when they seem over the top or inconvenient. Maybe you’ve heard yourself saying, “You’re fine” or “It’s not that big of a deal.” But the truth is, those big emotions are very real to kids, and when they feel acknowledged, they build trust and learn to manage their emotions healthily.
Perspective Shift:
Instead of ignoring or minimizing their feelings, try naming what they’re experiencing. For example, saying, “I can see you’re feeling really upset right now.” This shows kids that it’s okay to have big feelings and that you’re there to help them through it. It might not solve everything immediately, but it creates a safe space for them to feel seen and heard.
2. Using Timeouts as a Go-To Solution
Timeouts can seem like an easy fix when things get out of hand, but they often end up isolating the child rather than helping them understand their behavior. While it’s important to set boundaries, the goal should be teaching and connecting rather than punishing.
Perspective Shift:
Instead of timeouts, consider trying a “time-in.” This means sitting with your child, acknowledging what happened, and helping them calm down together. You might say, “I can see you’re really upset; let’s take some deep breaths together.” This approach fosters connection, builds emotional regulation skills, and shows that you’re a safe place for them, even in tough moments.
3. Striving for Perfect Parenting
Many parents feel the pressure to be perfect—the one with the Pinterest crafts, spotless home, and endless patience. But this idea of “perfect parenting” isn’t just unrealistic; it can be exhausting. Aiming for perfection sets parents up for disappointment and takes the focus away from the joy of real, meaningful moments.
Perspective Shift:
Let go of the need to be perfect and focus on building connection. Your child doesn’t need you to have all the answers; they need you to show up, even on the tough days. Embrace the idea that being a “good enough” parent is more than enough. Celebrate the small wins—like managing a tantrum with calm or making time for a bedtime story. These are the moments that matter.
Perspective shifts aren’t always easy, especially when you’re in the thick of parenting. But making these small changes—acknowledging emotions, moving away from timeouts, and letting go of perfection—can transform your parenting journey. Remember, it’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about showing up, trying new things, and building deeper connections with your kids.
Are you ready?
Ready to shift your parenting perspective and build stronger connections with your little ones? Let’s chat! Set up a free call with me, and we’ll work together to create a calm, confident approach tailored just for you.
